The Best Advice I can offer briefly on the web is my magazine article in Psychology Today. The article was a hit and was reprinted around the world and in textbooks by McGraw Hill. Here is the link:
How to Think Like a Shrink | Psychology Today
As a bonus, I can offer you my 101st Principle :
Never believe your own Bullshit.
If you are grinning with self awareness, acceptance and understanding, then it is mission accomplished. Enjoy the rest of your day.
Try to be Kinder and Gentler than you were yesterday, to others and yourself.
BH
PS Looking for a new literary agent to continue this effort.